Since taking a gap year I am definitely a changed person. It sounds cliché, but it’s actually the honest truth. When you are doing something for yourself, disregarding other people’s opinions of you I believe you learn more about yourself and what you want out of life. Since the beginning, I knew I wanted to go down this route before even choosing what course I wanted to major in and I can honestly say I had no clue what I wanted to do in Uni.
Throughout my school years I was and for the most part an A student. I didn’t like disappointing people but most of all I didn’t want to disappoint myself. I ended up spending a semester in a course I didn’t entirely love -Computer Science. The reason for why I left was because I couldn’t see myself going down the path of a Programmer. I hated the idea of sitting in an office all day. I want to explore the world and inspire people. I knew from the moment I stepped into the Administration office I was ready to leave.
I didn’t expect myself to change but if you asked me a year ago about some of the things I do today, my old self would beg to differ on a lot of things. I learned a lot of things and lessons about myself and also about life.
1. Speaking with people
As a child I had no problem talking to people and making friends with other kids. As I grew I began to enjoy my own solitude and spent many hours alone in my bedroom reading. At school I was the quiet one. However, taking this gap year, one of the goals I made for myself was to try and open myself up to people. I am usually very guarded and it was uncomfortable to talk at first and to open myself to people. Sometimes, I feel I am saying everything wrong at the wrong time. But now, while it is still a little unconformable it’s a skill I’m becoming more competent in. I used to have trouble transferring
2. Not everyone is going to like you
Learning to not care about what people think is extremely hard to do. It’s something you hear constantly but just can’t stop thinking about. Taking a gap year allowed me to be exposed to different environment, thus different people. I can’t say they were all positive, what I can say is that you can learn from these people – positive or negative. No matter how nice you are there are always going to be people who are not going to agree with you. People are always going to make assumptions about you even if they are not true. Sometimes, there are just people out there who you can’t seem to see eye to eye with and it’s not worth digging deeper. I’ve realized there’s no point in trying to defend yourself, it’s simply a waste of energy. Overthinking can be exhausting. I’m still working on being less conscious about what people think, it’s a little more than a struggle but it’s possible to overcome.
3.Becoming independent and taking more responsibility
With a new chapter, I moved my location to a new city. I became a city girl for a year and I learned to live by myself the majority of the time. I bought my own groceries and did my chores. Honestly, the newest challenge for me was money. Learning about banking and employment contracts were new concepts to me and I felt unprepared after coming from school to the working world. I think that’s another pro about taking a gap year, when you are just fresh out of school it will allow you to become accustomed to how the world works. It will teach you things no books will teach, unless you experience them first-hand. I’ve even saved enough to pay my own Uni fees, and I felt proud of myself for being able to do so. I began to feel like I had control over my life. I could do whatever I wanted, whatever I desired.
Learning to take care of yourself is just as important as taking care of others around you. Since I had made sufficient amount from working I am able to look after myself better. When I lived back home, I hated the idea of using someone else’s money. I spent very little, actually almost none at all. Since I am not the oldest I was always given hand-me down clothes which were sufficient for me for a while. However, now that I’m able to make my own savings I can treat myself better. I started to buy myself things and looked after myself better by dressing better and eating right. Overall, I feel more confident in my approach to life, I’m able to stand up for myself and not take any sh*t!
Taking a gap year was an incredible experience, although I didn’t do much I learned a lot about myself. Now that I’m in University, I have learned to appreciate it. I’m endeavoring to making the most out of the experience I am having. I’m learning to live life to the fullest despite adversities and challenges.
Whoever you are reading this I hope you have an amazing day today! A little quote to keep you inspired: “I am going to make a very beautiful life for myself no matter what it takes.”
Until next time!